And why that's not about you (or them) I see you. Scrolling through Psychology Today, filtering by your insurance, watching the results shrink to almost nothing. Finally finding someone who looks like they might get it, might understand your family dynamics, your cultural background, the weight you carry…only to see "private/self-pay only." And then comes the frustration. Maybe the anger. "Why is mental health care only for people with money? Why don't therapists want to help