What Healing Actually Looks Like

Healing isn't a destination. It's not waking up one day and feeling nothing about what happened. It's not performing peace so people think you're okay or you're OK with what they did

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Here's what it actually looks like:

Boundaries that don't need an apology. You say no without the guilt spiral. Or maybe the guilt is still there, but you say no anyway.

Sitting with discomfort instead of running from it. The pain might still come. But it doesn't go as deep as it used to. It doesn't take you out like it once did.

Letting go of the rescue mission. You stop trying to save people who didn't ask to be saved - and they did, recognizing that it's not your job. You stop performing your way into belonging.

Tuning into your own needs, and actually caring for them. Not as a reward. Not after everyone else is taken care of. Just because you matter.

Releasing the wait. You stop holding your breath for the acknowledgment that's not coming. The apology that won't arrive. You stop needing them to see it for you to move forward.

Healing isn't about fixing yourself. It's about coming home to yourself...even the parts that are still tender.

You don't have to be all the way healed to be healing.